Communication Challenge

September 8th, 2019

How often do you send an email instead of picking up the phone and having a direct conversation? How many times have you experienced conflict or challenge because of a misunderstood text or email? Do you have long talks via text? When was last time you sat down and had a really great conversation with your partner, your best friend, or your colleague without your smart-phone in sight?

I hear so often, “Kids these days! They don’t know how to communicate.”

Do you?

The Challenge

Direct communication can be a very confronting conversation.  We have all, adults, young adults, teens, and even pre-teens become reliant on our smart-phones for communication.  Yes, they are convenient. Yes, they allow us to stay in touch more often, shoot out quick notes to add items to the grocery list or to say hello.  I am afraid, however, that this electronic, smart-phone communication has several devasting effects:

1)   We have many friends we “talk” to and yet we still feel isolated and alone.

2)   Electronic communication misses nuance, tone, and body language and is very often misconstrued or misunderstood.

3)   We avoid the hard conversations and sweep them under the proverbial smart-phone rug.

4)   We are losing the art of face to face, person to person communication, and connection.

Are We Wearing Masks?

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Intention. Purpose. Trust.

June 27th, 2019

I was listening to a podcast the other day with Dr. Dan Siegel, a scientist, doctor, and psychiatrist who is a neuroscience and mindfulness geek.  I was taken aback when, during a brain-science talk, he began to speak about the power of intention.  Intention and brain-science?

I was completely intrigued.

I did some research and here, in his book Aware, The Science and Practice of Presence, Dr. Siegel writes:

“How intention glows, determines where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural and interpersonal connection grow.  Your intention sets the direction of attention and connection.  When we set an intention in awareness with initial purposeful effort, we influence what will also become intention even outside of our awareness. This creates a state of mind that can be present without our conscious effort. This is how a repeated, purposefully create state of mind during a practice becomes an automatic trait in our lives.”

What happens we set our Intention?

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Are You Ready to Put Your Baggage Down?

April 14th, 2019

Most of us have accumulated some emotional baggage. It may appear in the form of anger, shame, guilt, judgement or a variety of other “dark” emotions that weigh us down, prevent us from moving forward or cultivating a sense of well-being.  The weight of past trauma, choices made we later regret, words never said to a loved one who has passed, the secrets of our childhood that still cause us pain, addiction, abuse, a relationship we never healed – these are heavy burdens.

The Weight

Carrying this heavy emotional baggage around can create a barrier to making healthy lifestyle choices, can interfere with our significant relationships, keep us stuck in old habit patterns and interfere with achieving our professional goals and personal desires.  Holding on to this emotional burden has a direct and lasting impact on our well-being and how we show up in our jobs, in our relationships and with our families.

We may try to shove these “dark” and heavy emotional memories and wounds to the back of the closet believing that when they are buried and out of sight they are no longer impacting our lives.

Unfortunately, this is not the case.

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