It is naive to think that self-assertiveness is easy.
To live self-assertively – which means to live authentically –
is an act of high courage.
That is why so many people spend the better part of their lives
in hiding – from others and also from themselves.
– Nathaniel Branden
It takes courage to find our voice, to declare our purpose and to move forward toward our desires. And it also takes the discovery of our authentic self. There is deep and authentic You that exists underneath the layers of “need”, the layers of “should-ing”, the constant “wanting” and not doing, and the voices of others chattering away in our mind. When we are living in this state, burdened by these layers and the constant ring of others in our head we become hidden. We can become frozen and lose our ability to move forward, to take the first small steps toward achieving our dreams and aspirations. And we can become exhausted. (more…)